I bet you are. I understand the feeling. Two jobs, school and a family. Very tiring.
And narrowing this down is tough. There are so many online schools. What kind of degree do you want, to start with? Do you want to take multiple classes over a semester, or do you want to take one, two or even three classes over a five to six week period? That might help some folks on here tell you if the program they're taking is a fit.
As far as an associates at 42, my dear husband just finished his at 50. Hope he'll finish his bachelors by 52. But look at it this way: he won't retire until 67, so that's 15 more years!
Online schools are the perfect way to spend more time with your daughter when you want. You can work on classes evenings, mornings, weekends, whatever.
And...your company needs a wake-up call -- one that you need to give them. Do you ever sit down and talk with your bosses about your ambitions, what you want, what you need? Maybe they think because you're on the "mommy track," you want to stay in your current, stable position. You need to ask them what you need for a promotion, because you watched the 20-something with no education get that job, and it disappointed you, since you've shown your skills and dedication over the long run. And you are attending school to give them more.
<hugs> and keep plugging...